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Is Being Emotional Such a Bad Thing?

It is the mind which creates the world around us, and even though we stand side by side in the same meadow, my eyes will never see what is beheld by yours, my heart will never stir to the emotions with which yours is touched.” -George Gissing

Some people have told me that I am “emotional.” Well, I agree but I don’t think I would have it any other way. Being emotional means that I am showing I truly care about something deep down. It means that I have put value into that experience and some part of it affected me greatly.

There are many reasons why people choose not to express their emotions.  Most people tend to hide their emoitons or bottle them up because they are afraid of what others may think about them.  Others show no emotion because they don’t think it’s “normal” to be feeling that way, or they have to be the “rock” that holds everything together.  Some people see crying as a sign of weakness, especially among men. 

The truth is that we are very diverse creatures.  Each individual body and mind react differently if faced with the same situation.  Culture and ethnicity also play a huge role in emotion and whether it is appropriate to disclose or embrace it. 

I would much rather defy what others think about me and be the person who calls her friends to cry about problems, then the one who bottles them up. I wear my heart on my sleeve and it has caused problems in the past because people were not ready to hear what I had to say. Do I regret it? Not in a million years. It makes me who I am and at least I can say I was honest with what I was feeling.

I think it is important to be aware of how you handle emotions and work on controlling them.  Getting your emotions out and venting doesn’t always involve crying and turning to others.  Try writing or keeping a journal about experiences and how they made you feel. Go on a hike and talk to nature or animals if you don’t want to confide in others.  Draw a picture or write a song if you can.  Anything to express how you are feeling in a healthy way will aide in releasing tension, thus helping you in the long run. 



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